My philo. notes are not mentally inspiring. I just feel mentally tired. I have nothing interesting. I do believe that this is my most boring post. I shall do better tomorrow.
Laterz!
Renwen
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Saturday, December 27, 2008
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
A Compliment to the Sexes
Here's a long awaited, albeit short, philo. note.
For the past few days, I have been pondering a question. Why does a compliment from a person of the same sex seem to be more light-hearted, while the same compliment from a person of the opposite sex is taken to heart? It seems that this phenomenon can be traced back to one person: God. In His infinite wisdom, He planned every minute detail of man's and woman's relationships. I know, that at times, when one looks at the personality of man and the personality of woman, one thinks God must've been having a fit of hysterics as He planned this all out. I can be included in this bunch. However, man was made specifically for woman and vice versa. Thus, when a person of one sex receives a compliment from the opposite sex, it is taken to heart because that is simply how we are wired.
Laterz!
Renwen
For the past few days, I have been pondering a question. Why does a compliment from a person of the same sex seem to be more light-hearted, while the same compliment from a person of the opposite sex is taken to heart? It seems that this phenomenon can be traced back to one person: God. In His infinite wisdom, He planned every minute detail of man's and woman's relationships. I know, that at times, when one looks at the personality of man and the personality of woman, one thinks God must've been having a fit of hysterics as He planned this all out. I can be included in this bunch. However, man was made specifically for woman and vice versa. Thus, when a person of one sex receives a compliment from the opposite sex, it is taken to heart because that is simply how we are wired.
Laterz!
Renwen
Monday, December 22, 2008
Happy Holidays??
Is it just me, or do other people also feel the icy cold chill of fear when they hear the phrase "Happy Holidays"? How can you say "Happy Holidays" when one is trying to write Christmas cards, make gifts, wrap gifts, buy other gifts, work on music for a performance AND help decorate for Christmas??? Oh yah, we're also supposed to focus on Advent too....*looks at schedule* *looks up toward the Heavens* "Ok, God, I can fit you in at 10:05 PM, but you gotta be outta here by 10:15 'cause I got a bucketload of stuff to do!" *thunder rumbles* "Ok ok ok, 10:17?" *thunder rumbles again, louder this time* "ALRIGHT! 10:20, but NO LATER! And if you even THINK about sending down that bolt of lightening....*glares*" *thunder rolls gently*
The above is comical, I'll admit, but it is also quite true in many cases. People get so overwhelmed by the gifts, the cards, the parties, the glitz and glam of the holidays, that they forget why we even have Christmas in the first place. For the majority of kids, it's a day that they get boxes of toys from relatives and Santa. For the adults, it's a time to throw parties and have fun with their closest friends, which includes poppin' some bubbly. If you ask kids what Christmas is about, they will most likely say one of two things: toys or toys. The adults would most likely answer: spending time with family. Now, neither of these answers are bad, but they also aren't that good. Christmas is a time of giving and receiving, spending time with those you love most, but it is also a time of shedding the old and bringing in the new. That is the most cliched saying known to man, but it's actually quite true. Yes, friends, Christmas can be about the glitz and glam, but after the parties and toys, what's left? Memories, yes, but even those fade with time. Why not try to focus on the God portion of Christmas? This is one part of Christmas that won't fade. It just keeps giving and giving all year long. So, pop some bubbly and let the kids play with the toys, but take some time to meditate and remember that Christmas is about Christ.
Laterz!
Renwen
The above is comical, I'll admit, but it is also quite true in many cases. People get so overwhelmed by the gifts, the cards, the parties, the glitz and glam of the holidays, that they forget why we even have Christmas in the first place. For the majority of kids, it's a day that they get boxes of toys from relatives and Santa. For the adults, it's a time to throw parties and have fun with their closest friends, which includes poppin' some bubbly. If you ask kids what Christmas is about, they will most likely say one of two things: toys or toys. The adults would most likely answer: spending time with family. Now, neither of these answers are bad, but they also aren't that good. Christmas is a time of giving and receiving, spending time with those you love most, but it is also a time of shedding the old and bringing in the new. That is the most cliched saying known to man, but it's actually quite true. Yes, friends, Christmas can be about the glitz and glam, but after the parties and toys, what's left? Memories, yes, but even those fade with time. Why not try to focus on the God portion of Christmas? This is one part of Christmas that won't fade. It just keeps giving and giving all year long. So, pop some bubbly and let the kids play with the toys, but take some time to meditate and remember that Christmas is about Christ.
Laterz!
Renwen
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Double or Triple Life
Tonight's post is going to be on the tangent of society and the fear of people's opinions. Hope you enjoy!
Have you ever felt like you have been leading a double, or at times triple, life? You are one way with these people, this way with those people, and that way with these people. Or, you are always the first person to offer help, always smiling even when you are...let's say, extremely irritated with the world, always helping even when it makes you late, behind, or in a sticky situation. However, on the inside you are griping and groaning, wondering why this person can't do anything on their own, why any of this matters, etc. What I'm trying to say is, why is it so hard to match the inside with the outside? Are we afraid of being scorned for suddenly showing what we truly feel? Is it the fact that we are trying so hard to live up to the expectations of friends, family, co-workers, etc., that we sacrifice ourselves in the process? Why do we let ourselves be a mannequin of happiness? We aren't made of foam or plastic. We are humans! We are meant to feel anger, jealousy, love, happiness, sadness, etc. So, once again, why do we cover up our true feelings? This can be summed up in one phrase: fear of people's opinions. We are afraid to show love because of the possibility that we will be denied. We are afraid to show jealousy because we do not want to be thought of as a hateful person. We are afraid to show anger because we do not want those closest to us be afraid of us. We are afraid to show sadness because we do not want to be thought of as weak. Everything is covered, besides happiness, due to fear of other people. Why should we let the opinions of others stop us from being human? Are we suddenly animals, with only instinct to guide us? No! Now, I am not saying that every time you feel angry you should go up to the person that you are angry with and just start beating him up. Rather, I am saying that you should be able to say to that person "I am quite mad with you. I am mad because of (insert reason(s) here)." You should be able to do this without fear of having the other person walk away. Society has made us believe that we must conform to what the majority wants. This, my friends, is not what was ever planned when the American society was born. Freedom to express oneself is what America was all about. Now, America is about keeping everything in perfect order...everything the same. Should we really continue like this or should we break away from the norm?
Laterz!
Renwen
Have you ever felt like you have been leading a double, or at times triple, life? You are one way with these people, this way with those people, and that way with these people. Or, you are always the first person to offer help, always smiling even when you are...let's say, extremely irritated with the world, always helping even when it makes you late, behind, or in a sticky situation. However, on the inside you are griping and groaning, wondering why this person can't do anything on their own, why any of this matters, etc. What I'm trying to say is, why is it so hard to match the inside with the outside? Are we afraid of being scorned for suddenly showing what we truly feel? Is it the fact that we are trying so hard to live up to the expectations of friends, family, co-workers, etc., that we sacrifice ourselves in the process? Why do we let ourselves be a mannequin of happiness? We aren't made of foam or plastic. We are humans! We are meant to feel anger, jealousy, love, happiness, sadness, etc. So, once again, why do we cover up our true feelings? This can be summed up in one phrase: fear of people's opinions. We are afraid to show love because of the possibility that we will be denied. We are afraid to show jealousy because we do not want to be thought of as a hateful person. We are afraid to show anger because we do not want those closest to us be afraid of us. We are afraid to show sadness because we do not want to be thought of as weak. Everything is covered, besides happiness, due to fear of other people. Why should we let the opinions of others stop us from being human? Are we suddenly animals, with only instinct to guide us? No! Now, I am not saying that every time you feel angry you should go up to the person that you are angry with and just start beating him up. Rather, I am saying that you should be able to say to that person "I am quite mad with you. I am mad because of (insert reason(s) here)." You should be able to do this without fear of having the other person walk away. Society has made us believe that we must conform to what the majority wants. This, my friends, is not what was ever planned when the American society was born. Freedom to express oneself is what America was all about. Now, America is about keeping everything in perfect order...everything the same. Should we really continue like this or should we break away from the norm?
Laterz!
Renwen
Monday, December 15, 2008
Mental anguish >.<
Ok everyone, tonight is just gonna be a philo. note.....one loooooong philo. note. I know have been going on a "being true to oneself" tangent, but for tonight, I'm gonna veer off into a totally different tangent....the area of relationships. I have had a headful of info from both other people and just my own stuff, so I needed to clear my head. Hopefully, this will help me and those of you who read this stuff. Note: This isn't really a "food for thought" philo. note, it's more of a "sorting things out that are racing in my head" philo. note. I still hope you get something out of this.
Have you ever met or known someone for a really long time? Like say....9+ yrs? You and that person are quite comfortable with each other. You can just stand in total, complete, utter silence and still feel as if nothing is wrong. You feel safe, warm, comforted, happy....you don't feel afraid to say anything to that person because you know that person will not judge you or say anything negative to you because that person has been in the same situation. Now....what if you don't want these feelings? What if, with this person, you don't want more than friendship? What do you do? Do you just live with these feelings? There are, it seems, to be only three routes to go here.
Route 1: Take the person aside and tell them everything, then go onto the next step.
Route 2: Don't say anything and let everything go on as normal.
Route 3: Tell them everything, but try to keep a facade of normalcy.
Let's now examine each route.
Route 1
Ok, so you tell the person everything, and you decide to go onto the next step. This is exactly what you didn't want, and you are also now stuck here unless one of you breaks the other person's heart. Sticky situation. If you are in high school, you are still maturing. A relationship takes time and effort. Generally, those who were high school sweethearts do not get married. In my personal opinion, this is because they never had the time nor the maturity to nurture a strong bond. High school, be you freshman, sophomore, jr or sr, is full of decision-making and maturing. Having to keep up with school, work(for those who have to pay their own way to college or who just want some extra dough), deciding where to go for college, extracurricular activities, keeping up with family...add a relationship on top of that and the stress level has skyrocketed. Also, a person is not fully developed, mentally, until their early 20s.
Route 3
This is being discussed next because it has the same theme as Route 1. Trying to keep a facade of normalcy is hard to do. I mean, once these feelings are out in the open, how do you go back to what was "normal"? The whole dynamic of the two of you has changed because, with the feelings out there, the rules of the game have changed. This also clouds the mind in making important decisions. (Note: the rest of "Route 3" examination is my sole opinion, and is not endorsed by any medical facility or doctor.) People who choose this route tend to either a) become morbid b) alternate between happy and morbid or c) just reclude into themselves. Letter a) is heart wrenching for everyone to watch because they want to help the morbid person get out of their morbidness. Letter b) can be dangerous because the toxins of the brain that release in moods of happiness and morbidness can quite easily clash, generally turning this person into a psychopath. Letter c) is even more dangerous because the person is so recluded into himself that he can no longer function properly. Either way, this route will generally cause pain on one or both sides.
Route 2
Ahhh...Route 2 is, it seems, the least of the three evils. First off, neither side has to worry about breaking the other side's heart. What you don't know can't hurt you. Secondly, if one realizes that this is just a blown up crush, there is not as much heartbreak, or there is none at all. For the one who is still "in love" it is easier to move on when he realizes that the other person is truly happy. For the one who was doing the crushing...this is just a memory and this person can still have a pretty good friendship with the other person.
Laterz!
Renwen
Have you ever met or known someone for a really long time? Like say....9+ yrs? You and that person are quite comfortable with each other. You can just stand in total, complete, utter silence and still feel as if nothing is wrong. You feel safe, warm, comforted, happy....you don't feel afraid to say anything to that person because you know that person will not judge you or say anything negative to you because that person has been in the same situation. Now....what if you don't want these feelings? What if, with this person, you don't want more than friendship? What do you do? Do you just live with these feelings? There are, it seems, to be only three routes to go here.
Route 1: Take the person aside and tell them everything, then go onto the next step.
Route 2: Don't say anything and let everything go on as normal.
Route 3: Tell them everything, but try to keep a facade of normalcy.
Let's now examine each route.
Route 1
Ok, so you tell the person everything, and you decide to go onto the next step. This is exactly what you didn't want, and you are also now stuck here unless one of you breaks the other person's heart. Sticky situation. If you are in high school, you are still maturing. A relationship takes time and effort. Generally, those who were high school sweethearts do not get married. In my personal opinion, this is because they never had the time nor the maturity to nurture a strong bond. High school, be you freshman, sophomore, jr or sr, is full of decision-making and maturing. Having to keep up with school, work(for those who have to pay their own way to college or who just want some extra dough), deciding where to go for college, extracurricular activities, keeping up with family...add a relationship on top of that and the stress level has skyrocketed. Also, a person is not fully developed, mentally, until their early 20s.
Route 3
This is being discussed next because it has the same theme as Route 1. Trying to keep a facade of normalcy is hard to do. I mean, once these feelings are out in the open, how do you go back to what was "normal"? The whole dynamic of the two of you has changed because, with the feelings out there, the rules of the game have changed. This also clouds the mind in making important decisions. (Note: the rest of "Route 3" examination is my sole opinion, and is not endorsed by any medical facility or doctor.) People who choose this route tend to either a) become morbid b) alternate between happy and morbid or c) just reclude into themselves. Letter a) is heart wrenching for everyone to watch because they want to help the morbid person get out of their morbidness. Letter b) can be dangerous because the toxins of the brain that release in moods of happiness and morbidness can quite easily clash, generally turning this person into a psychopath. Letter c) is even more dangerous because the person is so recluded into himself that he can no longer function properly. Either way, this route will generally cause pain on one or both sides.
Route 2
Ahhh...Route 2 is, it seems, the least of the three evils. First off, neither side has to worry about breaking the other side's heart. What you don't know can't hurt you. Secondly, if one realizes that this is just a blown up crush, there is not as much heartbreak, or there is none at all. For the one who is still "in love" it is easier to move on when he realizes that the other person is truly happy. For the one who was doing the crushing...this is just a memory and this person can still have a pretty good friendship with the other person.
Laterz!
Renwen
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Construction zone: Hard hats must be worn
The above is what should be put over my brain right now. I was gonna do a nice philo. note....but that shall be done tomorrow night. Sorry everyone. Also, a tell -all of what happened with my bowling party will be coming in the week.
Laterz!
Renwen
Laterz!
Renwen
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Christmas cards, gifts, etc.
I am done with my Christmas cards!! :-D There were just four of 'em, but when one is making them herself...four can be quite a large number. :P Now, it's just wrapping those darned gifts....*mutters*
I went to a party last night...the annual 4-H County-wide Christmas party to be exact. I taught the 4-Hers that were there the wonderful game of Scream 'n Die. :-D We had fun doing that.
Today, I go to another party. This time with my high school religion class. We'll go bowling and then eat out. Can't wait to do that! :-D
And here's another philosophical note for you people to ponder over...
Say a person is always bubbly...always the crazy one, always the one who tries the hardest to lighten the mood, always the one who looks at life like it's just one big adventure, etc. This person has been like this since who knows when...Now, what if this person is doing this to stop those closest from getting too close? What if this person is doing this to, just for a small moment in time, stop the pain and feel happy again? Is this person being true to who he is?
Just fyi, I plan to hopefully have a philosophical note on every post, and for right now, it'll be of a being true to oneself theme. So, be prepared for one heck of a rough ride.
Laterz!
Renwen
I went to a party last night...the annual 4-H County-wide Christmas party to be exact. I taught the 4-Hers that were there the wonderful game of Scream 'n Die. :-D We had fun doing that.
Today, I go to another party. This time with my high school religion class. We'll go bowling and then eat out. Can't wait to do that! :-D
And here's another philosophical note for you people to ponder over...
Say a person is always bubbly...always the crazy one, always the one who tries the hardest to lighten the mood, always the one who looks at life like it's just one big adventure, etc. This person has been like this since who knows when...Now, what if this person is doing this to stop those closest from getting too close? What if this person is doing this to, just for a small moment in time, stop the pain and feel happy again? Is this person being true to who he is?
Just fyi, I plan to hopefully have a philosophical note on every post, and for right now, it'll be of a being true to oneself theme. So, be prepared for one heck of a rough ride.
Laterz!
Renwen
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